I love birthdays and firmly believe that they are an occasion to celebrate the unique individuals that we are and the gifts that only we can bring to the world. I encourage all around me to acknowledge their birth day when they came into the world.
The glittery parts of a birthday, the presents, messages, flowers, telephone calls are lots of fun but it’s the time you spend with yourself is the biggest present you can gift yourself on your birthday.
It’s the gift of self acknowledgement. A recognition of who you and where you are at. A recognition that you are the sum part of all your experiences and that nobody else can be you. It’s about seeing your light and allowing it to shine through the cracks and imperfections so that those around you can feel it.
Accepting where we find ourselves on any given day is like turning on that inner light. At first it is a soft glow that no one else can see but slowly, slowly as those voices in our head tune in to a positive sound track that inner light dials up from glow to shine.
I wrote in a guest post a few weeks ago about the 4 words that are guiding 2014 instead of the traditional New Year resolutions. I had been making headway with ACTION, CHOICES, GROW but SHINE had been falling behind. By SHINE I mean being the best version of me according to my values and desires no body elses.
I got super lucky with an early birhday present this year when a friend of mine asked me to be one of her coachees as she completed her coach training. In our last session she asked me for one day only, to write down positive alternatives to the negative comments in my head. I tweaked it a bit and everytime those noisy neighbours in my head made a negative comment I just replaced it with a positive one. It’s been a busy week inside my brain I have to tell you.
The point is I didn’t overthink it. Positive statement in response to negative comment. Done. Move on to the next thing. No outcome attached to the action at all.
I am a master at the inner soundtrack so imagine my surprise when I noticed that the sound of the noisy neighbours has been dialled down and I feel like I have some mojo in my step. Best birthday present to myself in years!
It might be May but SHINE finally has joined the year and its feeling good.
So take a moment to sit with yourself and reflect on the magic that is you. The realisation that there is nobody else like you in this world and the sheer fabulousness of that.
You are a gift.
Allow yourself to shine.