A couple of weeks ago I went to listen to Danielle La Porte speak at the Art Gallery of NSW. Fabulous venue, brilliant speaker. At the heart of her presentation was the idea that we can change and purse of dreams. Nothing really new in that idea there are lots of people championing that cause out there in the big wide world.
It was her perspective, her humor and insight that illuminated the subject and gave it a freshness and lightness.
She talked about metamorphosis. You know, when a caterpillar becomes a butterfly. What I did not know was that in the process of metamorphosis when the caterpillar becomes a butterfly it excretes digestive juices that breaks down nearly all its cells to become almost liquid before the cells rebuild and become a butterfly. And while this is a very non-scientific and rather lumpy description of what happens I have read a few articles on Google to confirm that this is actually what happens.
Danielle called this the soup.
The soup is the key to changing your path.
It’s a unique recipe. Add a pinch of desire, a dollop of courage and a cup of change.
I know the idea of change is enough to send one running for the hills but at some point in life one realizes that if you desire a different life you are going to have make changes.
You have to let go of who you were as you embrace the journey to the new. The super scary part is that you have to be prepared to at some stage in the metamorphosis to not recognize or know who you are going to become.
This is big stuff.
It takes courage.
How often have you embarked on a journey of change only to feel the old you, ever so slightly, slipping away only then to hang on even tighter? This probably happens without you even being aware of it and you are left wondering why nothing changes.
Allowing yourself to become ‘soup’ is confronting.
You are redrawing your boundaries. Your acceptable and non-acceptable changes. Your values change. But the real reason we hesitate is because we wonder if ‘the people’ in our lives will still love us at the other side.
Easy to write and easy to read but my Lord you do have to trust. Trust hard and love yourself enough to know that the end game is going to be worth.
When ‘your insides match your outside’ you feel whole. There is no disconnect. Life feels more balanced. You know the way forward that is right for you.
And you know what, ‘the people’ will still love you.
Yes, there may be some adjusting around the edges as they get used to the butterfly version of you but get used to it they will. Friendships will ebb and flow but that happens in life and you never know when your metamorphosis will inspire another ‘caterpillar’ to make their own journey through the soup.
Will you make this soup this winter?